\u201cI\u2019m married and attracted to another person to whom I\u2019m not married.\u201d<\/p>\n
This is a comment I hear with increasing frequency coming from both men and women, Christian and non-Christian.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve had individuals who can\u2019t stand the sight of their married partner \u2013 much less respond physically \u2013 describe a torrid physical affair with someone else \u2013 sometimes even a stranger \u2013 who is not nearly as attractive or personable as the marriage partner. The new involvement is simply an expression of resentment or retaliation. Surely it is not an expression of the love of God.<\/p>\n
Physical response is obviously not the problem. It\u2019s a matter of the spirit \u2026 a matter of the will, not the body. Granted, there are temptations everywhere. When haven\u2019t there been? After all, half the people in the world are women, the other half of the people are men. When you become a wife, all the men out there don\u2019t disappear. Nor do the women disappear when a man gets married. They are there \u2026 and are still interesting and attractive.<\/p>\n
Beautiful women and virile men were God\u2019s idea, you know. You can enjoy the beauty and fellowship of both sexes without lusting after them. You can have many close friends of both sexes. Granted, these relationships sometimes are hard to handle.<\/p>\n
Marriage involves commitment to one person, even though other people are still there.<\/p>\n
A child of God, with the love of God in their heart, who means to cooperate with their spouse, and who means to love, honor, and cherish their partner won\u2019t have a sex problem \u2013 either with their partner, or with someone else. However, there are conditions: you must take the Bible seriously and you must want to please your partner.<\/p>\n
What if your partner gives you a cold shoulder in spite of your willingness to love them unconditionally? Stay available. Desire to do your part. Remember, your commitment is to God and does not depend on your partner\u2019s response. Read God\u2019s Word and ask Him to show you how to strengthen your marriage. He will sustain you. Love endures. Trust God to show you how to remain pure.<\/p>\n
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This information was taken from the book \u201cI Want My Marriage to Be Better\u201d by Dr. Henry Brandt with Phil Landrum.<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cI\u2019m married and attracted to another person to whom I\u2019m not married.\u201d This is a comment I hear with increasing frequency coming from both men and women, Christian and non-Christian. I\u2019ve had individuals who can\u2019t stand the sight of their married partner \u2013 much less respond physically \u2013 describe a torrid physical affair with someone […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"parent":1271,"menu_order":10,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"advgb_blocks_editor_width":"","advgb_blocks_columns_visual_guide":"","_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":""},"coauthors":[],"author_meta":{"author_link":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/author\/ddunn\/","display_name":"ddunn"},"relative_dates":{"created":"Posted 11 years ago","modified":"Updated 10 years ago"},"absolute_dates":{"created":"Posted on May 9, 2011","modified":"Updated on September 28, 2011"},"absolute_dates_time":{"created":"Posted on May 9, 2011 11:34 am","modified":"Updated on September 28, 2011 12:35 pm"},"featured_img_caption":"","featured_img":false,"featured_image_src":null,"featured_image_src_square":null,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1286"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1286"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1286\/revisions"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1271"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1286"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}