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Could your marriage be better? Are you experiencing conflict? Or are you looking for ways to keep your marriage strong? Learn how to make your marriage the beautiful union that God intended it to be! Dr. Henry Brandt shares insights in the articles below to help teach you how to build a healthy marriage based on Biblical principles. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Building Harmony in Marriage<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Those who proceed into marriage with an individualistic mindset create disharmony in their relationship, and usually end up lonely and unhappy. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are You and Your Spouse Not Getting Along?<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The foundation upon which you build your marriage relationship is a mutually agreeable and mutually binding plan. That\u2019s what makes marriage successful. It\u2019s not a \u201ctingle\u201d; it\u2019s a life-time commitment. It\u2019s not competition; it\u2019s cooperation. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A Solid Foundation<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI want to be a better spouse.\u201d You say this, thinking back over a multitude of incidents that make up the history of your family. Some of them were funny when they happened; others are funny only as we look back on them. Still others were serious. Some were puzzling. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spirit-Filled Marriage<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Nobody gets married without the highest of hopes that this is going to be one of the finest, friendliest, most congenial, most satisfying relationships that anybody ever had. And that is a possibility. It is possible to live that kind of life. However, we need to stop and consider what goes into a relationship that will guarantee happiness and contentment and satisfaction. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Who is the Leader?<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.\u201d (Ephesians 5:22) There it is. One of the most fiercely debated Bible verses concerning marriage. \u201cWhy should the wife do all the submitting?\u201d That is the hot question. But here is the greater truth, the wife is not the one who needs to do all the submitting \u2026 this verse does not stand alone. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Marriage God\u2019s Way<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201c\u2026 present yourselves to God \u2026\u201d (Romans 6:13). Sometimes it seems as though a long-lasting marriage is determined by chance or circumstances or just plain old luck. However, there are some steps that will enable you to establish your marriage on a solid foundation that will help you stay in it for the long haul. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Good Communication<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The secret of getting along in marriage lies in two people applying the principle embodied in this verse from the Bible: \u201cAnd just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise\u201d (Luke 6:31). This is a workable formula! And amazingly, it is easier to carry out than to trying to figure out the other person. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

An Inner Life for a Healthy Marriage<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

There is no one person as intimately involved in your life as your marriage partner. So, your partner will make you more conscious of your inner life than anyone else. How are you contributing to happiness in your marriage?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Marriage, like no other human relationship, will keep you up to date on the condition of your inner life. It is a personal decision, unrelated to marriage, whether or not you repent of a negative inner life, and allow God to flood your soul with His Spirit. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Marriage Boundaries<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

You probably got married as friends, but then found yourselves running into difficulty because you each had your own way of living and doing. You came from one family, and your partner came from another family, and those families were different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your job as a couple is to create some boundaries and rules that will guide you in your marriage. But if you\u2019ve never created any rules before, and you or your partner don\u2019t like rules and boundaries, it won\u2019t be an easy task. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like-Minded Marriage<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Are you experiencing difficulty in your marriage relationship? Are there times when you just can\u2019t seem to get on the same page with your spouse?. . . If you get married with the idea that the person you\u2019re marrying is going to transform your life \u2013 turn you into a loving kindly, gentle, cheerful, happy person, you\u2019re mistaken. Marriage is first of all a matter of your spirit, and marriage will reveal what kind of spirit is in your heart. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Escaping Difficult Situations<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

God is with us in every situation, and He is with us right where we are! What we need to discover is how to respond appropriately to our current circumstances. You can either have a wonderful time underneath your skin, or a miserable time underneath your skin, and it\u2019s all up to you. The question is: Do you want to experience true peace, or are you more content with being angry, with bearing a grudge, with complaining, with being cranky? The answer to that question requires some personal reflection! (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Examples From Case Histories<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Dr. Henry Brandt shares insights from various couples he counseled. The names and certain details in these true case histories have been changed to protect each person\u2019s identity and privacy.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Competing Spouses<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When the Dolans, a Christian couple, came to see me, they had not spoken to each other for several weeks. The tension had become unbearable. The issue was over dancing in gym class. Hal Dolan had said flatly that their son should not participate. Melissa Dolan had agreed in front of her husband, but privately gave their son permission to participate. Hal found out about it through a conversation with a neighbor who had visited the gym class. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Need for Forgiveness<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Neither Frank nor Kate Bonner really wanted to break up their home, yet they were heading in that direction\u2013fast! After 23 years of marriage, Frank had become interested in a younger woman in his office. Kate said she could see why. Kate\u2019s hair was gray, her hands showed the years of housework she had done, her face was lined with the wrinkles of middle age. She was tired much of the time and was subject to frequent and sudden illnesses. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s the Little Things<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Everything seemed in their favor when George and Ellie got married. He was a research chemist with a good income, they bought a nice house, were active in the church, and popular with their friends. But in a few weeks this young couple was in my office seeking help. Their story went like this. George came home one night and was greeted as usual in the living room with a tender kiss. But as he held Ellie in his arms, his eyes wandered to a corner of the room and he saw hanging from the ceiling a long, wavy cobweb. He said nothing about it that night, or the next, but both times while maintaining a pleasant appearance, he said to himself in disgust, \u201cWhat kind of a woman did I marry that she can\u2019t keep her house clean?\u201d (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Need for Respect<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019ll post those receipts the way you say to, Ken, but Mr. Roland never had me do them that way,\u201d said Margaret Lowe to her husband in their insurance office. \u201cMr. Roland \u2026 it\u2019s always \u2018Mr. Roland did this\u2019 or \u2018Mr. Roland didn\u2019t do that\u2019\u201d he snapped. \u201cDon\u2019t forget, Ken,\u201d Margaret said, \u201cMr. Roland was successful enough to sell out at 50 and move to Florida.\u201d \u201cAnd when I\u2019m 65, I\u2019ll still be struggling to complete the down payment on the business. You might as well add that,\u201d he growled. For ten years, Margaret had admired Mr. Roland\u2019s keen business sense. When Kenneth Lowe joined Mr. Roland\u2019s sales force, Margaret thought she saw the same qualities in the new employee and she accepted his proposal of marriage after a rather hurried courtship. Then in those first few months of living together she found she didn\u2019t know Ken as well as she had thought. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Need for Repentance<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Bill and Jan Stanton lived in a long, rambling nine-room ranch house on a three-acre beautifully wooded tract of land. The swimming pool in the backyard, the two expensive cars in the garage, the neatly landscaped yard all added up to the obvious\u2014total success. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Independence is Bad<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Viola Walker was far from an avid angler, but she did go fishing with her husband, Louis, several times after they were married. Then, after three trips to the same trout steam and enduring her husband\u2019s complaints that she scared the fish away, Viola gave up the fishing business. Viola\u2019s interest was community projects and current events. She became deeply involved in these activities. Then, after one fishing trip, Louis talked about a \u201cgenuine fisher woman\u201d who had been in their crowd, and Viola felt a pang of jealousy. And she was hurt when he said he couldn\u2019t stay home to watch her debate the new expressway route on television because he was meeting his fishing friends, including \u201cLady Walton.\u201d (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Great Expectations<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Todd Turner was in trouble: for the third time, his wife had threatened to leave him, and this time she meant it. And all over a dog\u2014or so Todd said. Todd was away from home much of the time and had bought Tracy a dog for company before the birth of their first child. After the baby\u2019s arrival, Todd wanted to get rid of the dog. \u201cIf the dog goes, I go, too,\u201d Tracy warned. \u201cAll right, go ahead,\u201d he told her. And so they separated. (read more)<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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