\u201cBut Mommy, I don\u2019t want to.\u201d Or maybe, it\u2019s \u201cNo, Daddy, I won\u2019t.\u201d Sound familiar? These responses are the \u201ccries of resistance\u201d to major principles parents need to set down concerning their families. These principles are called limits.<\/p>\n
When you think about living and working together as a family, setting limits is vital. Children need limits \u2013 limits that are fair, reasonable, and as few as possible. The limits of your family need to be clearly communicated and enforced.<\/p>\n
\nIt may sound complex. But the only really complex part of living with limits in your family is for you and your partner to agree on what the limits are going to be, realizing and accepting that when you set down limits, you\u2019ll experience resistance.<\/p>\n
Your child may cry, beg, or even yell, thinking if they do it long enough, you\u2019ll give in. That\u2019s normal. It\u2019s just human nature to want to do things your own way, and you can see that tendency full blown and very obvious in little children.<\/p>\n
The Bible tells us that \u201cAll we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way\u201d <\/em>(Isaiah 53:6 KJV).<\/p>\n How do you handle it when your child resists your limits? You don\u2019t lecture them, or raise your voice to them, or give in to them. Help them, without doing the job for them. Be persistent, consistent, and firm, but be gentle.<\/p>\n Trying to get them to want to keep your limits isn\u2019t your job, even though many modern psychologists say it is. And it isn\u2019t your job to help them decide what limits they want to keep, or to explain to them why you want them to do what you ask. It is your job to decide what, in your considered judgment, is in the best interest of your children, and what are the reasonable limits that have to be carried out.<\/p>\n Keep in mind your responsibility isn\u2019t to keep your children happy. Your primary task is to \u201cTrain up a child in the way he should go\u201d<\/em> (Proverbs 22:6 KJV). The training of our children involves reasonable, firm boundaries set down in love. Loving limits give children a sense of security.<\/p>\n Children need good humored parents who are on the same page and who love their children and believe in them enough to give them whatever help they need to do what is best for them. That\u2019s security, and that\u2019s follow through.<\/p>\n Take a step . . .<\/strong> This is a summary from Dr. Brandt\u2019s message Follow Through<\/em> .<\/p>\n >>\u00a0Find life-changing insights arranged topically by need<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n >>\u00a0Listen to dynamic audio messages by Dr. Brandt<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n >>\u00a0Experience freedom and healing from sin problems<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cBut Mommy, I don\u2019t want to.\u201d Or maybe, it\u2019s \u201cNo, Daddy, I won\u2019t.\u201d Sound familiar? These responses are the \u201ccries of resistance\u201d to major principles parents need to set down concerning their families. These principles are called limits. When you think about living and working together as a family, setting limits is vital. Children need […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advgb_blocks_editor_width":"","advgb_blocks_columns_visual_guide":"","_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[166,72,164],"author_meta":{"display_name":"ddunn","author_link":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/author\/ddunn\/"},"featured_img":null,"coauthors":[],"tax_additional":{"categories":{"linked":["Parenting Advice<\/a>"],"unlinked":["Parenting Advice<\/span>"]},"tags":{"linked":["defiance<\/a>","parenting<\/a>","setting limits<\/a>"],"unlinked":["defiance<\/span>","parenting<\/span>","setting limits<\/span>"]}},"comment_count":"0","relative_dates":{"created":"Posted 12 years ago","modified":"Updated 1 year ago"},"absolute_dates":{"created":"Posted on April 3, 2010","modified":"Updated on August 10, 2020"},"absolute_dates_time":{"created":"Posted on April 3, 2010 3:20 pm","modified":"Updated on August 10, 2020 11:15 am"},"featured_img_caption":"","featured_image_src":null,"featured_image_src_square":null,"author_info":{"display_name":"ddunn","author_link":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/author\/ddunn\/"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/909"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=909"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/909\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8021,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/909\/revisions\/8021"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=909"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=909"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=909"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nAsk yourself, \u201dAre my children experiencing fair and reasonable limits?\u201d What changes need to occur within your family? Ask God to help you set practical limits for your children that will help them to be all that God has created them to be.<\/p>\nWant more? Click here\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n