The foundation upon which you\u2019re going to build an effective family life is this: You expect your children to honor you. Now how does that happen? That happens when you and your partner sit down and develop guidelines, limits, and rules that both of you are prepared to carry out, and in your considered judgment, are in the best interests of your children.
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\nMany of us, by the time we do our job, look at our recreational opportunities, and carry out our social opportunities, consequently find that we are too played out to spend quality time in the raising of our children. Let me say to you that if you want to give your children a sense of sure footedness, then you ought to accept the task of deciding what\u2019s best for them. \u00a0You are the one who\u00a0has the experience to realistically decide what is best. There isn\u2019t anybody in the world better qualified to decide what\u2019s best for children than their parents, provided you\u2019ve paid attention to what your children need.<\/p>\n
Children without boundaries will become frustrated and live with a sense of insecurity because they are left to chart their own course. According to Proverbs 22:6, parents are to \u201ctrain up a child in the way he should go.\u201d<\/em> Where a child goes and what a child does should be your decision, not theirs. You know what is best for them. They may buck you, but stand firm. Remember, it is not your responsibility to keep them happy, but to guide them in their behavior.<\/p>\n Agreement and unity are the foundation upon which you\u2019re going to build an effective family life. You\u2019re not concerned about whether your children like it. The important thing is that the two people in the world most qualified to make that decision are agreed that what you have decided is best for your children, because you both have the best interests of your children at heart.<\/p>\n Once you\u2019ve decided what the plan is going to be, then the two of you can work together the rest of the time seeing to it that it\u2019s carried out. You\u2019ll make changes along the way, reviewing the day or the week and reviewing the rules. It may seem a big undertaking, but there\u2019s nothing that will give you more satisfaction than you both charting the course for your family together.<\/p>\n Take a step . . .<\/strong> This is a summary from Dr. Brandt\u2019s message Discipline That Counts<\/em>.<\/p>\n Want more? Click here\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n >>\u00a0Find life-changing insights arranged topically by need<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n >>\u00a0Listen to dynamic audio messages by Dr. Brandt<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n >>\u00a0Experience freedom and healing from sin problems<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The foundation upon which you\u2019re going to build an effective family life is this: You expect your children to honor you. Now how does that happen? That happens when you and your partner sit down and develop guidelines, limits, and rules that both of you are prepared to carry out, and in your considered judgment, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advgb_blocks_editor_width":"","advgb_blocks_columns_visual_guide":"","_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[74,72,164],"author_meta":{"display_name":"ddunn","author_link":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/author\/ddunn\/"},"featured_img":null,"coauthors":[],"tax_additional":{"categories":{"linked":["Parenting Advice<\/a>"],"unlinked":["Parenting Advice<\/span>"]},"tags":{"linked":["child behavior problems<\/a>","parenting<\/a>","setting limits<\/a>"],"unlinked":["child behavior problems<\/span>","parenting<\/span>","setting limits<\/span>"]}},"comment_count":"0","relative_dates":{"created":"Posted 12 years ago","modified":"Updated 1 year ago"},"absolute_dates":{"created":"Posted on April 9, 2010","modified":"Updated on August 10, 2020"},"absolute_dates_time":{"created":"Posted on April 9, 2010 3:50 pm","modified":"Updated on August 10, 2020 11:15 am"},"featured_img_caption":"","featured_image_src":null,"featured_image_src_square":null,"author_info":{"display_name":"ddunn","author_link":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/author\/ddunn\/"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/914"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=914"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/914\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8023,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/914\/revisions\/8023"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=914"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=914"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselinginsights.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=914"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nTake a few moments to evaluate the way you discipline your children. Are you and your spouse on the same page? What can you do to approach the discipline of your children in the same way? What is one step you need to take to begin to guide your children in a more deliberate way? Ask God to help you take that step.<\/p>\n